“Let’s release ourselves from confrontation.  We can’t change the past but we can influence the future.  A cup of tea and a bun and a little generosity goes a very long way, and a soft word opens hearts whereas a bitter word closes them down.  This works at home, in the street, in the community, and politically – it just takes somebody to break the ice with a handshake, a hug or a kiss.” [Mary McAleese, Eighth President of Ireland, 1997-2011]